1. Curate Your Guest List. Couples tend to be the focus of play events so you’re going to want to look through your 3nder matches for those who you feel would be down for a little rendezvous (for those unaware, 3nder is kind of like the Tinder for threesomes and moresomes). If you’re already coupled, you’ll have an easier time recruiting others to join you. If you’re not, you’re going to have better luck if you’re a single woman (a.k.a. the unicorn to many), than if you’re a single man, unless of course you’re bi and you’re manliness hovers around alpha level, in which case, you’re gonna have a lot of fun.
When choosing guests, consider your guy to girl ratio if the majority of your male guests are straight. Being in a situation with too many men tends to turn off the heteronorms, so plan for more females to …